Hi!Β  I’m an ethically non-monogamous middle-aged artist and artists’ model. I’ve been kinky/dominant since before I knew there were words for how I was feeling. I chose the username “perversecowgirl” on a whim (I’m AFAB and toppy and it was a play on words of the sex position “reverse cowgirl”) but I’ve since realized I’m genderqueer or agender or something so that’s…awkward.

This blog is basically an online diary for me. Not exactly a sex blog or a kink blog, although I do talk about those things sometimes. I’ve recently started a low dose of testosterone to try to better align my body with my gender or lack thereof, so that’s probably gonna be a thing I talk about a lot.

44 responses to “About

  1. Lady, I just came upon this blog and you are hilarious.

  2. I too love your blog. I’ve been reading it for a few months now. I stumbled upon it after starting my own WordPress blog and have enjoyed every minute of reading it. It’s good to know that I’m not the only divorced thirty-something that loves to explore sexuality, creativity and some of the more taboo things in life.

    Thank you!

    • Months! Jeez. πŸ˜€

      Obviously my stats page shows that I get visitors, but I always assumed the vast majority of them were 14 year old boys who land here because of the “vagina!” tag but then immediately get bored and leave.

      Now I’m gonna start fantasizing that a bunch of my visitors are grownups who actually read stuff. πŸ˜€

  3. lurker901

    Hi, I’m a ‘grownup who reads stuff’.
    Got here by clicking a link above a clever comment at Yes Means Yes, AFAIR.

  4. Nina

    I found your website from the Pervocracy blog, and I have been reading it for the past week. I am pretty much addicted, and it’s sort of amazing to read in reverse order.
    I sort of want to be you when I grow up. I’m 22 (but smart, and I read stuff) and I think we are attracted to the same kind of boy. Your blog gives me hope that I can have that kind of boy when I’m a hot cougar. Provided that I’m as awesome as you are.

    • Thanks for writing, Nina!

      I love when I find a blog that I really like and there are lots and lots of entries to go back and read…but damn, giving that experience to someone else is even more thrilling! πŸ˜€

      And you can totally have hot eager-to-please young dudes when you’re a cougar. The media tries to give the message that guys all fetishize youth and inexperience when it comes to women, but it’s all lies. LIES!

  5. I’m also attracted to the same kind of boy. And I have my own – Wonderboy. πŸ˜‰ Our other inclinations might be contrary, which is a funny coincidence indeed.

  6. Asehpe

    I’ve just found your blog (via Mousie’s), and you seem like a good person with a heart-warmingly sincere style, of the kind that helps to see that there are all kinds of good people in this world and that this is how it should be. Thanks! (What’s with grammar? It’s also one of my fascinations, besides being part of my day job.)

    All of this to say: nice blog! I think I’ll be coming here again. πŸ™‚

  7. Asehpe

    My pleasure! I just figured that any one who cares enough about grammar to know the difference between “compliment” and “complement” (or “principle” and “principal” πŸ™‚ and is in a relationship with a cross-dressing man who loves to stick various toys into his ass simply has to be someone I would like to meet, and whose life wisdom I would like to sample.

    Live long and prosper! πŸ™‚

  8. I’m going to be a palindrome this year. I’ll be 33.
    I love your blog. Mostly because we are so different. I love unabashedly masculine men. I want a man that could hold me down and have his way with me whether I wanted it or not, and yet has enough respect for me that he never would. Hence the reason I’ve been married to Clint for more than a decade. That’s not to say he doesn’t have a feminine side. I don’t do any of the cooking in my household, and he has done most of the interior design. But he would NEVER try to look like a girl. I wouldn’t want him to. I’m intrigued by the differences. I find them titillating.

    • YOU’RE TURNING INTO AN ELEPHANT?!?!? (Just kidding; I know what a palindrome is.)

      I’ve had enough run-ins with assholes (and relationships with assholes, too) that my preference is a boy who has too much respect for me to ever cross my boundaries and if he tried, I could kick his fucking ass. Minx comes pretty close (I think he’s stronger than me, but not by much).

      I agree, it can be fascinating to vicariously experience a lifestyle or preference that’s really different from one’s own. It’s awesome that blogs give us the chance to be voyeurs. πŸ˜€

  9. preachersdaughter69

    Congratulations! I just nominated you for the Stylish Blogger Award 2011. For details please see the link below.

  10. Hi
    I just came by to say hello! Hello. Found you through preachersdaughter via Tarot/Quidmont. I love it. You can be my alter ago. I tend to hold back, not voicing what I really want to. Hope that is OK?
    I will read more when I come Back.

  11. You are a very entertaining writer. It’ll be a ridiculous ride going through your posts. I just started a blog about being newly single as a 20-something woman. It isn’t quite as hilarious as yours, but I’m hoping to build up to that. Haha, if you have time, check it out: datingconfidential.wordpress.com. Thanks!

  12. junoj

    Where can I find a girl like you? I want to be a skinny genderqueer submissve boy 15 years your junior. It’s perfect.

  13. How good to know you are there.
    You mean women like this too !?
    Tell the boys it’s OK !

  14. Umm, I’m a 50 something year old masculine guy. Is it okay if I enjoy this blog? I promise to stay out of the way and to not make too much noise.

    Actually, I followed you over from Stabbity, and I’m wondering how I’d never read you before. You rock!

  15. Alright, I’m frustrated! I can’t find your Twitter, and I can’t find your store!

    Shouldn’t the store, at least, be in the sidebar?

  16. Mmmmm. I think I might want to get wrapped in a naked Minx one day. Do you ever share? Love the bold, lively voice mixed with passion and fun. I’m new to WordPress (http://offgothepanties.com) but have been blogging for years using my real name. I really enjoy younger men myself (I’m in my mid-40’s) and love coming across a woman who truly enjoys her single status. You have an official new fan.

  17. I found your blog a few months ago, and have read it since. Your posts are gripping and funny and tormented. I’m also a crossdresser, so you give me hope that I’ll be able to find an accepting woman. Just gotta know how/where to look.

    • Awww, I’m glad you’re enjoying what I write!

      There are lots of women who love crossdressers. It might be harder to find one if you live in a small, conservative town, but it can still happen. πŸ™‚

  18. Just A Slut

    I found you on Stabbity’s page. I freaking love it here! I donakt do the whole younger guy but apart from that I love your sense of humor and raw honesty! I love your posts and plan on reading here a lot! Ciao -Me

  19. Hi! I really enjoy reading your blog so I thought I’d mention πŸ™‚ I’m in the opposite boat, in my 20s and seeing someone many years my senior. It’s strange but I find myself relating to your stories… Love doesn’t have boundaries, right?! Looking forward to your future posts!!!

  20. jay

    I know that I am exceedingly late to the party (the most recent comment here was 14 months ago), but I wanted to tell you how much I enjoy your blog. Although I try, my grammar and spelling aren’t always perfect even though perfection is my goal. There is just something so cerebral and attractive about someone that cares about such things as the proper use of the language. I tend to enjoy bloggers who care about the language and it’s proper use more than others.

    Thank you for your wonderful. I am eager to explore more while staying caught up with the current posts as they happen.



  21. I just wanted to take a moment to tell you how much I’ve enjoyed your blog! I have a website called http://femdoming.com/ and I would LOVE to publish some of your articles on our page. Please check out our site and if this sparks your interest please get back to me! I look forward to publishing your articles!!


    • I’ve poked around your site a bit and the first bunch of articles I read were basically “Men! Here is what to expect of a female dominant: she’ll act just like the dommes in your wank fantasies!” and “Women! Here is how to dress and act like a domme from his wank fantasies!”

      I do not think my opinions would fit in.

  22. Sara

    Just letting you know I love your blog.
    Being a strong independent poly female myself, its really nice to just get home and read one of your posts. They always make me laugh, but also think about my own life, and how I can better learn to see myself for who I am, embracing that without judgement.
    Either way, just wanted to say I’m reading, and so are many others whose lives you make just a little bit brighter through your writings.
    You are great, stay strong, stay true, be happy or unhappy depending on outer events and your own emotional disposition… but always keep writing πŸ™‚
    In this last couple of weeks before the year ends, wishing you all the best,

  23. jim sedrut

    Love your blog!

  24. play

    Hey, I just posted a monotype/drawing of a naked man on twitter that you might enjoy: https://twitter.com/playinprogress/status/838667974332534785

    (Not really intending this as a comment, more just a message. Also, I am still curious about your art, but understand very well why you keep it apart from your blog.)

  25. Whoami οΌΌ(β—Žoβ—Ž)/

    OMG, you’re still here* <3!
    I've been looking up the blogs I used to read way back*, when FB was a novelty, and an information bubble was your RSS feed. I guess I have some catching up to do. Is it ok to try and contact you? Like, in general, is there no role against that? πŸ˜‰ I think I must have commented here, but it was so long ago I can't really be sure… I'll try to find out.

    *Just learned Shakesville has closed down :-(((

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