Weird couple of days, work-wise.
Yesterday, one of my Facebook friends – someone I don’t actually know, really, but and I can’t remember how we ended up friended, but I know of him through the art community in some capacity – messaged me asking if I wanted to do a private drawing session online with him sometime. I said possibly, depending on the rate of pay and stuff.
Then I went and looked at his profile to try to refresh my memory of who he was (and gauge whether he might be creepy), and he’s an art model, too. Which, I mean, a lot of models are also artists, but his whole Facebook wall was basically him posting photos of himself in his underwear and begging people to draw him, or whining that he’s been trying to pose for people online but nobody’s taking him up on it. So a) he didn’t seem like someone who would have the money to pay me to pose and b) I was getting a big exhibitionist vibe from him.
Sure enough he writes me back today saying “I don’t ask for any pay, but some drawings might be nice.” So I responded explaining that I’d misconstrued his intent and saying if I ever want any drawing practice I’ll let him know. I’m a bit annoyed because my FB presence doesn’t indicate anywhere that I draw; dude must’ve been scattergunning invites at everyone on his friends list without even checking to see if they were artists. And although I was wary of his offer of a drawing session and ready to say no if he gave me a creepy vibe, the fact remains that I thought I had an offer of work. It feels like dude dangled the prospect of money in front of me and then was like “Psych! I’m just trying to get you to look at my dick!” (I’m betting if I’d said yes to a session he would’ve shown up to it nude whether we’d discussed that or not. Exhibitionist vibes, like I said.)
I mean I guess he didn’t actually dangle the prospect of money in front of me, he just stupidly offered me a chance to draw him without actually making sure I was an artist first. But anyway.
So then today I get a FB message from this other guy I know – who is an artist – and he asks me if I happen to have any foot poses on my Patreon because he has an assignment due soon where he has to draw feet. I do have foot poses, so I shot him my Patreon link and told him which tiers the foot stuff was on. And he continued asking me questions about it all instead of going to the fucking link and reading all the various descriptions. I probably should have told him all the info he needs is at that link and then wandered away from the computer for a while. As it stands I spent entirely too much time on this guy, and in the end he whined about the prospect of paying for a monthly subscription (even for one month) because he only really needed pics for this one assignment. I was like “Yeah maybe my setup is not compatible with what you want. I mean for the record my lowest tier is $5 USD and has a whole bunch of foot pics, but it’s up to you.”
And then he brings up how nice he was to me in class back in the day* and tries to wheedle a discount. On fucking seven dollars (Canadian).
My last words to him were that alas I cannot give a discount but the good news is if he Googles “feet” I’m sure millions of photos will come up for free.
And this is the thing that irritates me the most (and I see it on FetLife, too, with guys whining about the number of women on there who are plugging OnlyFans accounts): dudebro could quickly and easily have Googled all the foot photos he could ever want. He didn’t, though, because he wanted photos of me specifically. But then he didn’t want to actually pay me properly for them. I am trying to make a living goddammit and if what I offer is so special that you need that and not the billions of free options out there, fucking pay me accordingly.
*So, this guy was a student volunteer at some after-school drawing sessions at a local university. He’d just kind of be on-hand to take everyone’s payment and announce when the breaks were and stuff. The two times that I posed for those sessions, he was very sweet and solicitious toward me, bringing me bottles of water and asking if I needed any extra cushions or different furniture for posing with. That’s what he wanted to be rewarded for, today, with a discount. Incidentally, at the end of the first of those two sessions I posed for, he asked me how much I would charge for him to take reference photos of me to use in some drawings. When I asked for details on what exactly he was looking for, he described what was very clearly giantess porn. He obviously didn’t openly tell me that he had a giantess/trample kink, but I’ll bet you a million bucks he didn’t want those photos so he could make drawings from them. Anyway a lot of guys into giantess stuff identify as submissive, so it’s a good bet he was being so extra-nice to me because my height twigged his kink and put him into a subservient headspace. Whether he fancied himself to be submitting to me in our sessions or he was just trying to be good at his job, though, it’s shitty as fuck for him to try to leverage that for a discount now.