So…the art instructor from the other night? The one I clicked with? I emailed him to book some work for the new year and told him it was great meeting him and stuff. I also sent him a link to my Facebook fan page because he’d expressed interest in seeing my work. He replied that it was great meeting me, too, and offered to be friends on Facebook, which I accepted.
He has now asked, via Facebook message, if I might want to use him as a model sometime because he’d get a kick out of my “kink treatment” (meaning that he’s noticed the kinky theme to a bunch of my work and wants to be portrayed as a pin-up boy or sub, I think).
OH GOD NO. NO NO NO NO NO. NO.
Oh, and he happened to ask this right after telling me he might buy some of my smaller paintings as Christmas gifts for his friends. Which begs the question: is this a bribe? Is he saying “If you interact with me in a quasi-sexual way, I’ll give you money”?
I can’t decide whether to completely ignore his message or to send a gentle rejection. I guess what it boils down to is: would he have the balls to bring it up in person and put me on the spot (in which case I’d rather nip this in the bud) or does he kind of know this is inappropriate and if I pretend it never happened he’ll just go with it?
What would you do?
Edit: I wrote him back a message that made chatty small talk about where he can buy my work and then slipped in there that I’m only comfortable having partners pose for me (which is not strictly true; but I’m only comfortable having guys I’m attracted to pose for me, so close enough). He replied to my buyers’ info and then added “I completely get your modelling stipulation — I think the odd treatments you give your subjects roused my inner exhibitionist, hitherto dormant, for a moment.” So, okay. He backed right off without demanding that I justify my decision or “give him a chaaaaance,” and his attitude was mildly apologetic like he maybe realizes he was a bit inappropriate, so I think we’re good here. I think I can still salvage a good working relationship here. Maybe a friendship, too, although I’m still feeling a little shellshocked and tentative right now. We’ll see.