A lot of guys on FetLife have stolen porn screenshots on their profiles instead of pictures of themselves. If a guy is submissive, obviously these shots are going to lean toward women doing “dominant” things to men or men doing “submissive” things to women.
I’ve noticed that pretty much every photo I’ve ever seen on a sub’s profile of a guy going down on a woman depicts the woman looking totally bored. I’m guessing her bored expression is what makes it a D/s photo rather than just a picture of two people enjoying each other.
And the epiphany I had is this: when a sub seems obsessed with providing “oral service” for a dominant woman, it’s probably not because he wants to give her pleasure (otherwise he’d choose photos that show women looking happy while they get eaten instead of staring listlessly at the camera). It’s for the same reason so many subs want to lick a woman’s boots – because he sees the act as degrading to him. He doesn’t truly want to be of service to a woman; he wants to feel submissive by putting his face in her awful, dirty no-no place while she mocks him for doing so.
How totally fucking depressing.
I realized a long time ago that most “submissive” men are actually just wanting a woman to enact their degradation fantasies. I did not realize that cunnilingus-obsessed subs were of this group.