The Pedant just sent me a big long email responding to a bunch of stuff.
He says he needed a while to think about everything I’d said and compose a response. Why the fuck didn’t it occur to him to write a quick “I’ll respond to this as soon as I can” message in the meantime? Could this be some weird Aspie brainfart or is he making an excuse? That’s the biggest question I have for the studio audience.
He says he does return my feelings and he does consider us to be in a relationship. He offered up a concrete day when we can get together (although, as luck would have it, it’s a day I’m not available). He basically told me that he’d like us to keep seeing each other but his job does limit his availability pretty severely, so if I need a lot of together-time or affirmations in order not to feel anxious, he’s not my best bet.
He said my email didn’t add any extra stress to him, which was nice.
I am not currently ready to make any decisions about whether he stays in my life or goes. I do cautiously plan to discuss things with him some more – to vent and get closure, or maybe to negotiate a new way of conducting our relationship that will make me happier; I’m not sure yet.
But yeah. Can anyone tell me WTF is up with him not even writing to me before to say “bear with me; I’ll address this properly soon”? It just seems like common sense that if someone writes to you freaking out because they don’t hear from you enough, you say something to them as soon as fucking possible. I can’t imagine anyone not getting that. But then again I’m not Aspie.