I first wrote out my angst to The Pedant on Tuesday. It is now Saturday (and I’ve written two conciliatory follow-ups) and I’ve heard nothing from him. At all.
So it’s looking like his non-answer is my answer.
I’ll probably wait another few days and send him one last email. It will say “When we first started seeing each other, you made me promise that if I ever bailed on you, I’d tell you why so you wouldn’t have to wonder. It’s pretty shitty of you not to extend me the same courtesy.” Or something like that.
I honestly didn’t think he was the kind of person who would just vanish. That hurts more than anything; I trusted that he was the kind of person who talks things out, and it seems that trust was misplaced.
Oddly, The Social Worker (who works in the same office building) says he chatted with The Pedant recently and The Pedant made some huge point of mentioning his long hours and commute – which TSW and I both suspect was meant to get back to me. So possibly The Pedant is trying to apologize, or at least make excuses for himself, in an oblique way. And yet he’s not talking to me.
Oh, and I see through Facebook that he hung out with a friend last night, which just rubs salt in the wound. He had yesterday off; he had time to get in touch with someone And he chose someone other than me.