It occurs to me that, as far as The Pedant knows, I prefer to see him once every two weeks or so (because I told him this outright once during a discussion of expectations). We’ve somehow been seeing each other once a week (or more!) lately, and I love this, but The Pedant may not know that I love it. So my plan of backing off until he initiates more togethertime, even though I’m dying to fuck him right now? May backfire. For all I know he wants to see me, too, but is purposely holding off in accordance with the every-two-weeks thing. We know he’s not good at reading signals.
But also, I know he’s had a horrible cold over the weekend and may still be fighting it…so even if I wanted to break down and ask him over, now might not be the time.
So here’s what I’m gonna do: I’m gonna email him and say something like “I like that we’ve been hanging out more often lately. Let’s do it again soon – when you’re over your cold and ready to socialize, hit me up.” This lets him know in actual words that I approve of the frequency of his visits, and it puts the ball in his court so I don’t feel like I’m the one initiating all the time.
The only catch is that I just sent him an email yesterday (telling him about my visit with Dog and sending him an old novella I wrote in case he was interested in checking out my writings) and he hasn’t responded to that yet. So I’ll need to wait another day or two before I send this latest thing, lest I look too clingy.
I think it’s a good plan, though.