Do you guys get a little extra excited about a prospective suitor if he or she has a name you particularly like? I do. I know it doesn’t make sense, but I do.
I’m not even talking about having a handful of names that I like, and hoping someone I approach online happens to have one of them. I mean when an online dude tells me his real-life name, I’ll sorta mentally go “Hmmm. [Boy] and [Cowgirl]” and if the names sound nice together, I feel a little extra optimistic, like it’s a sign that things will work out (spoiler: it’s not). I mean, okay, there are a few names I already like. But I have a pretty big capacity for being pleasantly surprised, too.
I especially like names that everyone (in my culture) has pretty much heard of, but that are a little bit uncommon. Within the last little while of talking to shitloads of FetLife guys, there’s been an Isaac, a Jacob, and a Connor. Each of these names has made me squeal out loud a little bit. I don’t think I’ve ever met a Kevin I didn’t immediately get along with, so I have positive associations with that name even though it doesn’t fit the above criteria.
Minx’s real name, incidentally, was totally unappealing to me (more proof that names are totally unrelated to relationship longevity). I associate his name with grizzled old men, and indeed Minx found a site where you can look up a name’s popularity throughout history and his name was most popular in, like, the 1920s or something.
My ex-husband’s name, I think I liked when we first met – but after nine years of emotionally abusive marriage I don’t like it anymore.
I love The Pedant’s name. Although that’s mostly because I associate it with him. It wasn’t a name I ever especially thought about before I met him.
Does a person’s name ever make you a little extra attracted to them? Does a person’s name ever turn you off, even if you don’t have a history with it (it’s not the name of a shitty ex or your cousin or anything)?
Tell me stuff. 🙂