23 28 year old responded to my message already. Favourably.
Like me, he prefers small quiet gatherings to huge loud crowded group outings, and prefers email/texting to talking on the phone. So hooray for that!
And! He says if we hit it off he might get my help with taking pictures of him – some of them naked or partially naked. Which is hilarious because I was gonna ask him if I could take naked pics of him. Oh, and also he’s interested in exploring crossdressing. I could totally help with that. 😀
Overall he seems like he has potential. I’m not developing a huge crush or anything but I find him articulate and a reasonably good conversationalist and we seem to be on the same page with what we’re looking for – a nice, casual FWB thing that will probably involve me photographing him and/or feminizing and/or dominating him.
One hitch, though, is that he told me outright that he’s into “feminine” women – which immediately makes me bristle. I do not know what “feminine” means to him, but historically when guys have said this to me it means all the gender performance bullshit of long hair/makeup/pantyhose/heels. I believe I’ve already mentioned the dude from a bunch of years ago who called me “unfeminine” because I usually wear (fitted, girly) jeans and t-shirts and my hair is short. Never mind that I have a 29″ waist and 45″ hips; apparently being a woman is all about the clothes, and I’m not doing it right.
It’s possible I’m still a bit bitter about that whole thing.
The good news is, this dude does find my FetLife profile pic attractive, and I’m wearing jeans and a hoodie in it. And I was honest with him that I don’t have long hair or wear makeup or dresses all that much but that my actual body structure is pretty feminine so he can take from that whatever he wants. I sent him a good clear face pic, too, just to make damn sure he knows what he’s dealing with (and that is how I think of it…like my semi-tomboyish look is something he’ll have to “deal with.” I wonder if super-girly heels-and-makeup chicks ever find themselves apologizing to guys for how they present themselves? I tend to assume they don’t).
Despite occasionally feeling that I have to defend my fashion choices, I have to say, I don’t often feel like my hideous, manly presentation gets in the way of my dating life overall. I mean, even with my head mostly shaved I’ve still gotten attention from, and had brief dalliances with, plenty of plain ol’ jeans-and-t-shirts-wearing dudes you wouldn’t think would be attracted to a punk-looking chick. Maybe this cute FetLife boy will see something appealing in me even without high heels, as so many others have.
Or, maybe I’ll turn out not to be his type. And that’s fine too.
But you guys…his ass is spectacular. I want access to it. Let’s all keep our fingers crossed.